Breakup & Divorce
Experiencing a breakup or divorce is hard. Whether you are looking for resources and support for yourself or a friend, the below info can help.
Going Through a Breakup or Divorce
Ending a relationship can be painful, even when both partners know it’s for the best. You may struggle with feelings of sadness, confusion, loneliness and even anger. These feelings are normal and may pass with time. Learn how to cope with a breakup by taking care of yourself, being honest about your needs and looking ahead.
How to Help a Friend Going Through a Breakup or Divorce
When a friend is experiencing a breakup or divorce, it can be difficult to know what to say. You don't want to overstep, you're not sure what would be helpful, or you may just feel uncomfortable talking about feelings. Here are five ways to get you started:
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Reassure your friend that what they’re feeling is normal. Ask them what kind of support they need. If they are open to receiving it, share your own experience with getting over a breakup and what you found helpful in getting your life back on track.
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Let your friend know you’re thinking of them. This can be anything from quick check-in texts or calls to handwritten notes or cards. Reaching out will let your loved one know that you care about them and are there if they need to talk.
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Be on the lookout for unhealthy coping behaviors. It’s easiest to fall into harmful habits during tough times, like a breakup.
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Encourage your friend to practice self-care. Physical activity and a healthy diet can help improve mood. Nurturing their own needs can help your service member reconnect with themselves and focus on their own happiness.
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Help your friend focus on their well-being. Ending a relationship means going from “we” to “me.” This can be painful, but it can also open them to new experiences and opportunities for self-discovery. Talk with your friend about their hopes for the future. Encourage them to set a goal or two and discuss ways they might reach them.